So IDK about you, but my friends and I kinda love Buzzfeed quizzes. You know the ones that you just can’t seem to scroll past on your Facebook newsfeed and have procrastination written all over them? Thanks to this obsession, I now know that if I were a pizza topping I’d be pepperoni, Italy should be my next holiday destination and out of the Kardashian clan, I most resemble Kourt (this is totally true btw – I have organic toothpaste, am paranoid about radiation and want ten kids someday 😂). However, I recently discovered a personality test that goes well beyond pizza preferences. In fact, it more or less dives into the depths of your soul to reveal your true self. It’s called the Myers-Briggs “type” indicator (also known as the MBTI for short) and it changed everything for me.
Now, I’m not about to get super scientific on you because 1.) I am no expert, and 2.) You can find plenty of in-depth articles written by actual experts by simply punching “MBTI” into Google. Nevertheless, I will give you the (very) basic rundown… The MBTI test was created in 1943 by Katharine Cook Briggs and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers. It’s based on the typological theory proposed by Carl Jung, who had speculated that there are four principal psychological functions by which humans experience the world – sensation, intuition, feeling, and thinking – and that one of these four functions is dominant for a person most of the time. Essentially, this assessment categorises you into one of sixteen categories, based upon which of the following cognitive functions you use most:
Introversion VS. Extroversion
– How and where we give and receive energy
Introverts – Enjoy alone time. Recharge their batteries by turning inward and find social situations draining after a while. Typically they prefer spending time in their own heads.
Extroverts – Get energy from being in social situations. They enjoy going out, meeting new people and being in the company of others.
Intuitive VS. Sensing
– How we gather data and the kind of information we like and trust
Intuitives – Imaginative. Finding inspiration and knowledge from within themselves, they enjoy possibilities, meanings and looking at ‘the big picture’.
Sensors – Scientific and intellectual. They observe facts and enjoy info that is practical, actual and real.
Thinking VS. Feeling
– How we make decisions
Thinkers – More logical. Great problem solvers, they make decisions based on facts.
Feelers – More emotional. They step into decisions, consulting their emotions and value system.
Judging VS. Perceiving
– How we live our lives
Judgers – Planners. Love organisation, lists and all things systematic.
Perceivers – Spontaneous. Go with the flow and play things by ear.
After taking the test, I learned that I am an INFJ. More introverted than extroverted processing information through my intuition rather than my senses, making decisions based more on feelings rather than by thinking logically, and I’m more planned and organised rather than flexible and spontaneous. GUYS. This is scarily accurate! I’ve gotta get a little vulnerable with you to explain why this discovery touched me so much (but hey what’s new)…
Truth be told, for the majority of my life, I’ve felt unbelievably misunderstood by almost everyone around me. Over the years, I have been blessed to meet a handful of people I’ve connected with on a deep level and who I feel truly ‘get’ me. But to be honest, for the most part, I’ve felt like a bit of an alien on this planet haha. In a previous relationship (with a sensing and spontaneous ESFP), the question “Why are you like this, Cait?” came up an awful lot. As a result, I spent the best part of four years asking myself the same question. Why don’t I want to socialise 24/7? Why am I happier at home with my head in a book? Why do I struggle to see things logically? Why am I so overly emotional? Why do I have to plan everything to a T?
Well, finally the answers came. And they came in the form of the MBTI.
See INFJ‘s (also known as The Advocate, Counselor or ‘Seer of souls’) are the rarest of all sixteen types. We make up less than 1% of the world population. And those of us who identify as INFJs are apparently “deeply complex, highly sensitive individuals”. Kinda makes sense then, that we go through life thinking nobody else truly understands us, right? Finding out that basically all INFJs feel profoundly different from other people was a total game changer for me. In many ways, it was the key that unlocked the door to true self-love and acceptance. Buzzfeed quizzes went straight out the window and I spent months researching my type and pestering everyone I know to take the test themselves (sorry, not sorry!).
The craziest thing is that it turns out my female best friend is an INFJ too. We ‘clicked’ in high school the second we met each other and constantly joke about being separated at birth because we so often feel as though we’re the same freaking person! Now we know why! I also found that the vast majority of my closest friends (and an ex-boyfriend) are all ENFP’s, which is the #1 personality type INFJ’s are supposed to gel well with. I’m certain this cannot be a coincidence!
Not only does the MBTI help you to better understand yourself, others, and the way in which you interact with those around you, it’s also a great way to figure out the kind of career you should pursue. For example, when I was reading the “Careers” section of my type explanation, it said this:
“INFJ’s enjoy positions where they can grow and make a difference. They often pursue expressive careers such as writing, elegant communicators that they are, and author many popular blogs…”?!?
Weird huh? I’m not even kidding when I say I could waffle on forever about everything I’ve uncovered thanks to the MBTI. Enough about me though, I’m eager to know which of the sixteen categories you fall into! You can click here to discover your own MBTI type. It’s totally free, takes less than 12 minutes to complete and believe me when I say it’s well worth your time. Just prepare yourself to be a little blown away/slightly weirded out by how accurate the results are. I’m yet to talk to anyone who hasn’t found it to be spookily spot on.
Oh and don’t forget to leave me a note below letting me know what your type is. It will make for some super interesting conversation in the comments ☺️