1.) It’s normal to feel as though you’re not where you “thought you’d be by now”. If any other twenty-something denies feeling this way, they’re probably lying. Rest assured: we’re all in the same boat.
2.) You don’t owe anything to your younger self. You’re allowed to change. And you should. It’s okay to reconsider what you believe, who you love and what you want out of life. As Alan Watts said: “You’re under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago.”
3.) Call your parents. They miss you, and they won’t be around forever.
4.) If you’re going through a friendship drought, hang in there. As you get older, your friends will lessen in quantity but grow in quality. Don’t worry if you haven’t found your “squad” yet.
5.) No one’s life is as good as it seems on Instagram.
6.) Millenials are not the worst. I know the media narrative says we are entitled narcissists, but personally, I don’t buy it. And I don’t think you should either. Most of us are ridiculously hard working, creative and innovative thinkers. Together I believe we have the power to change the world.
7.) You can let go of your first love now. Releasing the past is never easy. It’s always more tempting to stick with that which is familiar and comfortable. However, the reality is that you’re no longer stuck just choosing between the fifteen guys in your math class. And you don’t have to settle for the cute one that kinda broke your heart in the last year of school. There’s a whole world out there. Muster the bravery to open yourself up to it.
8.) Worrying about getting old is a waste of time. Look, I get it. You blinked and went from 16 years old to 21 years old and you’re terrified. Me too. But growing older is a privilege denied to many. Be grateful for it. If anything, let your evergrowing understanding of the finite nature of life, push you live it more fully and beautifully each day.
9.) Put your phone down when you’re with the people you love.
10.) If work feels like hell, it’s time to reevaluate. When things start getting tough at work, you’ll either realise how committed you are to your job or how badly you need a new one. No one should hate Monday mornings.
11.) When someone loves you, they will love ALL of you. The scars from your messy childhood. The way you look when you’ve had 3 hours sleep. The blemishes, downfalls, flaws and all. They won’t shy away from the darkest parts of you. True love is unconditional.
12.) It’s not rejection. It’s redirection. If you’ve just been turned down for a job or by the dreamy guy you met on Tinder, remember it’s always this or something better. Being rejected from something (or someone), means you’re being directed to something else. Trust that the good will come.
13.) At the age of 23, JK Rowling was broke, Oprah was getting fired and Walt Disney was filing for bankruptcy.
14.) Don’t let one arsehole harden your heart. Not everyone is gonna eff you over.
15.) Mental + physical health > Everything else. Yes, education is important. Yes, you should want to invest wholly into your career but not at the expense of your health. Being well in your mind and body is the world’s most underrated luxury. Prioritise it, even if it means having to put other things on the backburner for a while.
16.) There’s probably a lot you’ve forgotten to be proud of yourself for. Think of the jobs you’ve landed. The heartbreaks you’ve survived. All the challenges you’ve come out on the other side of. Give yourself a little credit sometimes.
17. You are your own worst enemy. Half of the harsh things you tell yourself, you wouldn’t even dream of saying to a friend. So often, the thing holding us back most in life is ourselves. Recognise that it’s on you to get out of the way of yourself and bring your dreams to fruition.
18. Being single in your twenties is a bloody blessing. Spread out in bed. Focus on your career. Don’t bother shaving your legs.
19. Everyone has baggage. Know that even the person you admire most cries in the shower sometimes.
20. You’re doing so much better than you think you are. Sure, you’ve still got stuff to learn. So do your parents and grandparents. Life is one long, continuous learning curve. You’re doing great, babe.